Like so many, I have tried to be invisible. I feared telling others about my past because I don't have the scars that people can physically see. I carry scars deep within. In fact, many are still open wounds that have yet to become healed scars.
I began sharing my story when I reached a point that where my life was at stake. I reached out for help... And met mixed reactions. Those who knew nothing about it made light of the situationa and even accused me of doing it for attention. Fortunately, I met with far more who understood enough to offer their support rather than their judgment.
Regardless of the reactions, I began to feel free. I no longer had a deep, dark secret. I had a story worth revealing. I found that little girl who loved life and people. I found the creative and happy part of me. And I began to heal.
I am not invisible, even though the scars are. I challenge you to tell your story. Speak it here. Talk to a few trusted friends or family members. Shout it from the rooftops if you need to. Never let anyone diminish the pain you suffer. You are not invisible. You are special and wonderful. You are loved and deserved to be loved with a love that never hurts.
May God bless you tonight and always.
Showing posts with label finding peace in who you are. Show all posts
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Tuesday, July 24, 2012
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Learning to Love Yourself: Part 3
Forgiveness
Many a sermon has been on the difficult topic of forgiveness or rather learning to forgive others. However, I have learned that the one person I needed to forgive the most is myself. After all, how can I love myself if I cannot forgive even the smallest thing that God forgives.
Throughout my journey to healing from my past, I have struggled with getting over how weak I was, even though I was a child at the time. I still find things I wish I could change. But these grudges that I held against myself really held me back in my relationship with God.
Here are a few tips to forgiving yourself.
1. Acknowledge what you hold against yourself. Put it into perspective with the situation or time. Is this something you could have helped?
2. Own it. Even if it is something trivial, own what you struggle to forgive. Perhaps it is a matter of feeling you should have been nicer to someone or you think you failed someone else or yourself.
3. Be gracious. Everyone makes mistakes. You must be gracious with yourself and learn to forgive and move on.
In the end, the past is the past, the future a mystery. Live in the present regret free.
Many a sermon has been on the difficult topic of forgiveness or rather learning to forgive others. However, I have learned that the one person I needed to forgive the most is myself. After all, how can I love myself if I cannot forgive even the smallest thing that God forgives.
Throughout my journey to healing from my past, I have struggled with getting over how weak I was, even though I was a child at the time. I still find things I wish I could change. But these grudges that I held against myself really held me back in my relationship with God.
Here are a few tips to forgiving yourself.
1. Acknowledge what you hold against yourself. Put it into perspective with the situation or time. Is this something you could have helped?
2. Own it. Even if it is something trivial, own what you struggle to forgive. Perhaps it is a matter of feeling you should have been nicer to someone or you think you failed someone else or yourself.
3. Be gracious. Everyone makes mistakes. You must be gracious with yourself and learn to forgive and move on.
In the end, the past is the past, the future a mystery. Live in the present regret free.
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
Learning to Love You
"You cannot make someone love you. You can only be someone who can be loved."
-unknown
Too often we try to be something we're not to so that we can be loved. And we've all seen the movies that depict a person gaining popularity by losing who he is.
I have honestly learned that I can only be loved when I am who I love to be. After many struggles and failures (including a breakdown), I stopped trying and instead starting take care of me first. I love people and want so much to help everyone; however, I cannot help anyone if I do not first give myself the attention needed to tend to my wounds.
For any of you reading this, I challenge you to step away from the world's idea of you and take a long look in the mirror. Do you love what you see? If not, change it. Take the challenge of facing yourself and starting the long road to finding who you are.
-unknown
Too often we try to be something we're not to so that we can be loved. And we've all seen the movies that depict a person gaining popularity by losing who he is.
I have honestly learned that I can only be loved when I am who I love to be. After many struggles and failures (including a breakdown), I stopped trying and instead starting take care of me first. I love people and want so much to help everyone; however, I cannot help anyone if I do not first give myself the attention needed to tend to my wounds.
For any of you reading this, I challenge you to step away from the world's idea of you and take a long look in the mirror. Do you love what you see? If not, change it. Take the challenge of facing yourself and starting the long road to finding who you are.
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